By name: difficult-conversations description: Prepare for challenging conversations using Prepare-Listen-Empathize-Clarify-Solve framework.
Difficult Conversation Prep
Prepare for challenging work conversations using a structured framework.
When to Use
Before any conversation you're dreading or that has conflict potential.
The Framework: Prepare-Listen-Empathize-Clarify-Solve
1. Preparation Notes
Document:
- Your intent (what you want to achieve)
- Non-negotiables (what you won't compromise on)
- Specific facts/examples (concrete, not accusations)
- Language traps to avoid
- Desired outcome
- Success criteria
- Medium choice (in-person/video/async)
2. Opening Lines (3-5 options)
Create openers that are:
- Neutral, non-accusatory
- Reference concrete impact
- Invite their perspective
Examples:
- "I wanted to talk about [situation] because I've noticed [impact]..."
- "I'd like to understand your perspective on [issue]..."
- "Can we discuss [topic]? I want to make sure we're aligned..."
3. Questions to Ask (5-7)
Use open questions (what/how/when):
- Avoid "why" framing (feels accusatory)
- Include one perspective-taking question
- Include one constraints question
4. Anticipate Reactions
Prepare responses for:
- Denial: [De-escalating response]
- Deflection: [Redirect response]
- Emotional reaction: [Calming response]
- Counter-accusation: [Non-defensive response]
5. Clarify and Solve
- State shared goals
- Present options with trade-offs
- Agree on commitments
- Assign owner and timeline
- Schedule follow-up
Self-Management Checklist
- Deep breaths before starting
- Slow speaking pace
- Use pauses deliberately
- Notice body tension
- Stay curious, not defensive
Output
- 1-page prep doc
- Opening lines (3-5)
- Questions list
- Reactions/responses table
- Close and next steps
- Escalation flags (if HR/compliance needed)
When Not to Use
Do not use this skill when the request is unrelated, low-stakes, or better handled by a simpler direct response.